I’m a neat freak. Organization nerd. Simplicity geek. I love a clean house, where everything has a place. I love clean floors and sparkling countertops. I love for my home to be “pretty.” That’s when I am totally relaxed.
Or… When I used to be totally relaxed. With two toddlers running around, the house hardly looks like that today. Or… Ever.
Today, as I was cleaning up lunch, I glimpsed our living room – the remnants of a blanket fort falling apart. Costumes and cars all over the floor and chairs. Shoes and socks thrown about the kitchen floor as the kids headed upstairs to naps…. And all I thought was, “yep. It’s the weekend. This is what weekends are for.” Smile.
A couple of weeks ago, a friend asked me, “If at the end of the day, your house is still a mess, still dishes in the sink, laundry to do, and dinner to be made… Do you feel guilty?” She, too, has two small children at home. I knew where she was going with her question, but all I could do is laugh.
Guilty?! Nah… Life’s too short for guilt. I may cringe. I may feel a cleaning sprint coming on before bedtime. I may have to take a couple of deep breaths and give up a little free time to get some of it done. But guilty? Nope. Not a bit.
My house is not what it once was. It’s not a quiet, beautiful, serene sanctuary from the rest of the world anymore…
But. It is: comfortable. A place full of laughter and energy. A place where imaginations get sparked. A place where forts and rockets, baby dolls and stuffed giraffes rule. It’s a messy kitchen full of healthy meals. Laundry that shows a love of the outdoors – dirt, grass, puddles, etc. A place where markers, paint, crayons, play-doh and shnibbles of paper show up in the carpet (!).
Is it perfectly pretty? Nope. But it’s perfect for us. And that’s all that matters.
When you look at my list of goals, none of them have to do with having a clean house. Get projects done? Yes. Continue to make this house ours? Yes. But perfectly clean? Nope. (As much as the neat freak in me loves that idea…) Nope.
Life is too short. The time with our kids learning to play and imagine is too short. There are some things you just have to let go… And this is one.
Weekends are messy. That’s what makes them delightful! Will I feel guilty about that? Not in the least…
Now, excuse me while I straighten up just a bit before the kids wake up…!